Australia is a self proclaimed nation that allows free thought, free speech and free actions. This means that people are supposedly born with choices. However, while everyone applauds those who say this, they do not realise what some people miss out on. They do not realise that deep within society are family pressures that take away this freedom and the ability to make choices for themselves. That thanks to the way this government has set up this country, and the way this country was and still is established, people are more often than not, unable to make free choices in this country.
My entire life has been determined by what my mother wants, and moving to Queensland is just another example of it. The closest I've come to being able to make my own decisions in this small minded, tight knit community of people who repress any sort of intelligent life form that threatens their structure, is to choose my own subjects at school. And lets be honest, because my community is so against people branching out there were a small selection to begin with.
Short of abandoning my family and taking refuge in another persons home for a the next two years, I have nothing I can do to make my own decisions. I was forced into this move. When we get there, I will be forced into paying the bills because my mother never made the choice to get an education and thus a good job, she chose to be a waitress all her life. Because of the choice of location I will be forced into studying the course I want to study via correspondence. Even though my name will be on the lease of the house, I will get no say in anything that happens within said house. Mum intends on having a uni student move in, mum intends on reconnecting the phone and internet with a specific company that I dislike, mum gets to make all the decisions, and I get to pay for it.
I'm sick of being the person that has to deal with everything my mother cannot. She makes so many commitments to so many things, and mostly they are costing her money, and almost always I have to bail her out. It's not my job, at not even 19 years old, to spend my money cleaning up after her. She should stop and sort out what she can afford before dragging me into her messes. But I don't get a choice. It's go along with everything she wants or basically end up with no future, no home to live in, no qualifications, no ability to create the future I envision myself living and nothing to rely on. I don't want to be like that, I've grown up with two parents who never did anything but live on what they earn and never saved a cent. My father was a high school drop out and my mother finished year 12 when her eldest daughter did.
I want to be able to say that I am better than that, I want to have the ability to make my dreams come true, and with the position I am being forced into right now, it's not going to happen. I will not be putting my name on a lease after this year, I will be moving out in 12 months, paying my own way through life and then moving overseas where I feel I belong better. I will be selling my car in 6 months and I will be putting the money into a saving account and nobody can stop me. It's the end of the line, I turn 19 in 20 days and I will not be held back by people who never got anywhere in life.
I'm sick of everyone giving me hour long lectures about sucking it up for my mother and moving to Queensland for her. Everyone sees things from her side because she has no life, no friends, no money and now, no possessions. I have things, I have money, I have a future, and while I only have a few of them, I have friends. I have the ability to get away, and I'm sick of people not seeing things from this side, the side that has never had a choice in the matter, the side that gets dragged along no matter what, the side that would still have to suffer even if she didn't put any effort into helping with this ridiculous adventure.
I don't want to move, I don't want to act as my mothers bank account constantly, I don't want to have everything I've ever saved for and bought for myself to be used however she sees fit, and I will not put up with it forever. 2 years is my limit in this country. 1 year is my limit in a house with her. 6 months is the limit for my bank account to sit on empty for everyone else. I'm done playing along with everyone elses ride, I'm building my own track and starting my own ride. This is my life, and I will live it as I see fit, despite everyone elses opinions.
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